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Accepting That Your Breastfeeding Plan Will Change


We wanted to share this lovely story with you about planning a trip to Italy... and ending up in Holland. As Sue said, "This is EXACTLY what it's like to be a parent."

When you're pregnant you are always planning. You have a plan for the birth of the baby, a plan for how to raise your baby, a plan for what to do after baby arrives (work, SAHM), a plan for what type of schooling you want for your baby, etc. There's always a plan. One thing we've learned is that the only plan that you can really rely on is planning on things to change.

Breastfeeding doesn't always go as planned and sometimes does not happen at all. Just enjoy the trip, Moms. Enjoy Holland.

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"When you're going to have a baby, it's like planning a fabulous vacation trip to Italy. You buy a bunch of guide books and make your wonderful plans. The Coliseum. The Michelangelo David. The gondolas in Venice. You may learn some handy phrases in Italian. It's all very exciting.

After months of eager anticipation, the day finally arrives. You pack your bags and off you go. Several hours later, the plane lands. The stewardess comes in and says, 'Welcome to Holland.'

'Holland?!?' you say. 'What do you mean Holland?? I signed up for Italy! I'm supposed to be in Italy. All my life I've dreamed of going to Italy.'

But there's been a change in the flight plan. They've landed in Holland and there you must stay.

The important thing is that they haven't taken you to a horrible, disgusting, filthy place, full of pestilence, famine and disease. It's just a different place.

So you must go out and buy new guide books. And you must learn a whole new language. And you will meet a whole new group of people you would never have met.

It's just a different place. It's slower-paced than Italy, less flashy than Italy. But after you've been there for a while and you catch your breath, you look around.... and you begin to notice that Holland has windmills.... and Holland has tulips. Holland even has Rembrandts.

But everyone you know is busy coming and going from Italy.... And for the rest of your life, you will say 'Yes, that's where I was supposed to go. That's what I had planned.'

But... if you spend your life mourning the fact that you didn't get to Italy, you may never be free to enjoy the very special, the very lovely things... about Holland."